Wednesday, February 14, 2007

Valentines Day

I have always had mixed feelings about Valentines Day. I can't help but think that like Christmas it has become far too comercial with the shops bumping up prices for cards and teddy bears clutching hearts emblazoned with 'Be Mine' on them. This cynicism is perhaps due to the fact that traditionally I have never really looked forward to this day. Growing up I went to an all girls school. Every year the 'in crowd' of girls - the pretty ones with manes of long hair and the up-to-the-minute fashionable clothes got loads of cards and gifts. They would always make a point of asking me how many I got and of course the answer was always 'none'. They were of course just cruel bullies having a laugh at the expense of the girl in the class who didn't fit in with them.

As I got older I had some sweet boyfriends who sent me a card or bought me some little gift. Then later I got married and at first it was sweet too. Later on I learned not to expect much on Valentines Day and was often asked if I wanted to 'bother' with Valentines. Not exactly what every girl wants to hear and didn't exactly leave me feeling cherished. Eventually we went our separate ways. However, this year is different. M bought a Fondue home last night together with Strawberries and chocolate. Champagne has also been produced and is in the fridge suitably chilled. When I got up for work this morning we exchanged cards and it was lovely. All day I have been looking forward to a lovely meal that M has promised to cook. There has even been talk of a gift! So, for the first time in a long time, I am having a lovely Valentines Day.
Happy Valentines Day to you all!
I hope you have many lovely moments in life to make you feel cherished and not just for one day a year.

14 comments:

utenzi said...

Happy Valentine's Day, Bob! (that's not something I ever thought I'd be saying)

I don't see my girlfriend today but I sent her a dozen and a half of roses. I don't have a fondue pot at home but maybe we'll have some champagne this weekend. I always have at least one bottle of that on hand. Happy snacking, Bob-kat. I'm sure those strawberries will be good!

MaR said...

Happy Valentine's Day to you two!!!
sounds like a wonderful evening, enjoy it!

Anonymous said...

Happy Valentine's Day to you and yours!

This is a year we (the self-directed ones the snots and snobs bullied) have come into our own. Here in the USA we have a hit tv show called "Ugly Betty". Betty is a glasses-wearing, above average intelligence gal who works in the fashion industry, but refuses to (lol) be part of the herd. Boy, are those b*****s furious when she gets the goodies and they don't.
I've played this card all my life, but would often need to xplain at length why it was that I, not some "chick" wound up lunching with the boss or being invited to high level parties! Now we have a shorthand for this kind of persona! Say "Ugly Betty" and everyone understands your role in the scheme of things. If it plays in your area, you'll see Betty is not "ugly"--except in the eyes of the bimbos who behold her.

Katherine said...

Yay for you! That sounds absolutely lovely! What did M cook? My husband is downstairs cooking dinner for me right now, too. I'm thrilled! Some kind of chicken and--gasp--acorn squash?? I like acorn squash but I'm worried it might, ahem, be beyond his culinary skills. hee hee

Anonymous said...

Bob Kat, Happy Valentine's Day!
I too, was always the one forgotten on Valentine's Day. Even in Grade 1 I wasn't the popular kid, and would be lucky if I had a few tossed my way!
I made Greg a card and gift this year, and he presented me with a beautiful orchid.
The fondue sounds delicious, and very sexy! ;)
May everyday be Valentine's for you and M!

Melody said...

Oh wow! Aren't you a lucky one.

We usually exchange cards but this year we didn't. Mainly for the fact now that we've just bought a house together and we get to celebrate both Mother and Father's Day now. Upon saying that though, Lyndon said he is going to take me out to dinner tomorrow night. That should be nice...

Anonymous said...

Happy Valentine's day Bobkat!

I'm glad to hear that things are going your way this year :-)

My Bride and I exchanged cards this morning. I included a gift card to her favorite clothes store and she gave me three big chocolate and peanut butter hearts...I love those things!

Roxie, Sammy, Andy and Shermie said...

Happy Valentine's Day! We got Mom up early so we could go outside and then all ran back to the bed so we could snuggle together. When it was time to get up for breakfast, we gave her kisses. Isn't that a great way to celebrate Valentine's day? Oh, wait, we do that every morning. It just goes to show you, we don't need a day on the calendar to let us tell Mom we love her!

Roxie, Sammy & Andy

Preeti Shenoy said...

Happy valentines day.One day in february is not special--but one person always is.And that is what counts.
Not the number of cards you get--not the silly girls who laughed at you, not the commercialiastion.

What matters is what makes YOU really happy.
Hope you had a GREAT day bob-kat--because you really deserve it.

srp said...

It sounds like you had a very lovely day... I hope we get an update on that mystery gift!

Unknown said...

I hope you had a wonderful time! I'm not a big celebrator of this holiday but I’m not sure why. I remember Valentine’s Day in school but I don’t have any bad memories except being forced to give everyone in class a Valentine even the kid that picked his nose in class everyday! Yuck!

diyadear said...

bob, that felt like a heart felt post.. i am happy u had a nice V day.. N as for bullies, we all have it at some point in life whichever criteria or category one falls in.. :)

Shephard said...

Bobkat,
Thanks for stopping by my blog, and thanks for the info about the lilies. I have a list of plants that are bad for cats, but for some reason, lilies aren't on it!
In truth, Oboe could care less about plants, and never chews them. It was mostly for the humor effect. But I do have an older cat who likes plants, and she can't jump, which is why I put flowers up so high.
Thank you for the comment, hopefully others will read that too! Stop by anytime!

~Shephard

Shephard said...

P.S.
I thought since you enjoy travel/photos, I'd share this from my photo blog. :)

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~Shephard