tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post7928646197954614732..comments2023-09-20T15:48:07.681+00:00Comments on Bobkats House: ThinkingBobkathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11842625953465490864noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-65544361069847533362008-10-29T19:12:00.000+00:002008-10-29T19:12:00.000+00:00I'd say you're one smart cookie.~SI'd say you're one smart cookie.<BR/>~SShephardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07318615370914088651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-6728551794741215442008-10-27T06:01:00.000+00:002008-10-27T06:01:00.000+00:00Of course I 'got' it... in case you haven't notice...Of course I 'got' it... in case you haven't noticed, I do that all the time! It's healthy to spread that stuff around, makes for a lighter load! lolSmilerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04888076998373335876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-39454620429562332602008-10-21T03:54:00.000+00:002008-10-21T03:54:00.000+00:00Surround yourself with the people (and animals) th...Surround yourself with the people (and animals) that love you and celebrate! You have worked hard to rise above. Keep your chin up, kid!Gwynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16540042878760457834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-32218538991195056452008-10-20T18:26:00.000+00:002008-10-20T18:26:00.000+00:00I relate all too well to this, as I come from a fa...I relate all too well to this, as I come from a family that's never quite been able to share happies. I don't understand the coldness, as no one has ever taken the time to explain it to me. Parents, siblings...I may as well not exist to any of them. It's sad, really, but I can't beat myself up forever over it. Just need to focus on my wife and children - the center of my world - and move on.<BR/><BR/>Please know that you're surrounded by folks like us who appreciate you for the incredibly kind, accomplished person that you are.carmilevyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00360045114379957605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-65281888388898537342008-10-20T12:32:00.000+00:002008-10-20T12:32:00.000+00:00I've been away with busy-ness and am now trying to...I've been away with busy-ness and am now trying to catch up.<BR/><BR/>Of course, it's difficult to see what the rest of your friends see, as you're in the midst of it. Suffice it to say, you deserve salutes for having weathered the storms you have over the last several years. Fortunately, you have and have had the inner strength to carry through.<BR/><BR/>Cheers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-68414741787898198382008-10-20T01:54:00.000+00:002008-10-20T01:54:00.000+00:00I know we've yet to meet face to face, but you're ...I know we've yet to meet face to face, but you're NOT alone. It may take me a bit to catch up to something you posted days ago, but I'm here. I'm in your corner.<BR/><BR/>Don't feel alone. You're right: You've kicked the trouble to the curb and come out smelling like a rose.Susan Helene Gottfriedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12778191943289129869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-72196422594706334112008-10-19T08:04:00.000+00:002008-10-19T08:04:00.000+00:00Smiler - You've hit the nail on the head. The whol...Smiler - You've hit the nail on the head. The whole point of this post was getting closure for myself. It was recently the anniversary of my neice's death and of my divorce. I have been working things through and trying to find answers and that fact is that I have some pretty good theories but nothing concrete. This post was about dumping that mental baggage and not dwelling on it any more but then you totally got that didn't you? :)Bobkathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11842625953465490864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-27879475492469346282008-10-19T06:34:00.000+00:002008-10-19T06:34:00.000+00:00Sounds to me like you're actually working things t...Sounds to me like you're actually working things through for yourself, as opposed to just dwelling on the past for it's own sake. Sometimes we need to create our own sense of closure before we can fully appreciate the present and look forward to the future. Ugh. I'm sounding like a greeting card. You've been through a lot in the recent past. That gives you every right to kvetch and complain and feel sorry for yourself. Because if you don't, who will? :-)Smilerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04888076998373335876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-7191345234106602862008-10-19T03:02:00.000+00:002008-10-19T03:02:00.000+00:00BK I feel totally inadequate to offer advice here....BK I feel totally inadequate to offer advice here. However I do know a couple of things...<BR/><BR/>One - Don't forget about God's role in this. I have found that giving Him my "unsurmountable" problems / issues is a sure fire way of getting the load off of my shoulders and into the hands of someone able to "fix" things.<BR/><BR/>Two - I'm VERY proud of you....and DO care about what you've managed to accomplish my friend.<BR/><BR/>God bless and know you're in the thoughts of many!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-58577394196907045552008-10-17T23:29:00.000+00:002008-10-17T23:29:00.000+00:00Not surprising it takes time to process so much th...Not surprising it takes time to process so much that has happened.<BR/><BR/>Remember.<BR/><BR/>You are wonderful.rashbrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01138427049001650099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-61853787171634518342008-10-16T01:25:00.000+00:002008-10-16T01:25:00.000+00:00this helped me to read this!!isn't it funny how we...this helped me to read this!!<BR/><BR/>isn't it funny how we always assume all the blame is ours - kind of arrogant in a way lol<BR/>I'm so central that eveyone is focused on me!! <BR/><BR/>In reality I have come to understand, not always accept, but understand that the way people treat me has so much more to do with them than me<BR/><BR/>I'm having some bad times now health wise and I am so disappointed in my family in terms of their lack of response. For a while I was telling myself how unworthy I was BUT really they are the problem - thoughtless, lazy, selfish, limited - whatever keeps them from being responsive people. It's not me<BR/><BR/>You better celebrate your masters and your promotion, and your wonderful photographs. I do!! I'm very proud of you.Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-53199407459299163482008-10-14T14:30:00.000+00:002008-10-14T14:30:00.000+00:00Very, very well done, Bobkat. You came through wit...Very, very well done, Bobkat. You came through with flying colors and you should be proud of yourself and your achievements!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-61254758789053378412008-10-14T00:31:00.000+00:002008-10-14T00:31:00.000+00:00It is always good to get things out in the air and...It is always good to get things out in the air and well done to you on doing so... At least now you can 'move on' - forgive but don't forget. That is the best way to get on with life, this is what I do. <BR/><BR/>Well done to you on all your achievements. It is a pity we are all 'blog' friends here in the blogosphere because, if truth be told, we'd all probably be good friends if we did always meet up. Gee, does that make sense? All I am trying to say is that I consider you my friend, not just my blog-friend.Melodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05681227038111050561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-81674996141984020792008-10-13T18:42:00.000+00:002008-10-13T18:42:00.000+00:00As Shakespeare said.."This Above all, to thine own...As Shakespeare said.."This Above all, to thine own self be true, and it must follow--as the night, the day---Thou canst not then be false to any man"....Lonely thou it may be, my dear Bob-Kat, you must be true to yourself and if part of that is letting go of the past...Do It!<BR/>So much is out of our control, but how you function in the world and who you are IS in your contol my dear B-K. So, just stay on your path and all good things will come. Sometimes as we travel on our true path, many things that had been impeeding(?) us are, out of neccessity, left behind. Those that cannot see you for the wonderful special person that you are, should be left behind. Many people DO see you, and love you....I keep thinking about that saying: 'You can choose your friends but not your family'. And this is so very true. The most important thing is that you stay on your true path, my dear, and be true to yourself. I really believe that from that, all good things WILL happen. Sometimes it is very painful to forge ahead, but...you are doing that and like the Butterfly coming out of the cacoon, you are dropping the non-essentials and coming into your own. BRAVO TO YOU, MY DEAR!OldLady Of The Hillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02458879772193114892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-82685934915492560242008-10-13T17:58:00.000+00:002008-10-13T17:58:00.000+00:00You have nailed it squarely on the head. These thi...You have nailed it squarely on the head. These things have been out of your control. There was a time in y life where my family thought I was nuts, my mom said I should never have children as I would be a horrid mother; my divorce from my 1st husband was all my fault, he was a good guy and I was stupid for letting him go. My entire family turned their backs on me as well. But I went on with life, without them. And they realized that I could survive without them...and they came back, eventually. Oh, they were still bitter about my getting remarried (my dad told me that he wasn't coming to my 2nd wedding since he came to my first and that should be good enough)...my other family had "things to do" that were more important. But fast-forward 10 years and we are all okay. I don't harbor the bitterness and anger anymore, and they have moved on away from the ex (they now know he was a drunk and drug addict and I couldn't have fixed him even if I had stayed)...my mother has seen me in action with my kids and knows that I'm a better mother than she was...and has told me as much. <BR/><BR/>You've found your track...stay on it, and eventually, those in your life who are missing you will re-connect to the road you are on. Cyber hugs to you!Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11956372504248127591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26776821.post-56863530614449845222008-10-13T17:19:00.000+00:002008-10-13T17:19:00.000+00:00Make this your mantra:"I think I should stop being...Make this your mantra:<BR/><BR/>"I think I should stop being so hard on myself and if no-one else wants to celebrate my recent achievements then it's up to me. I hereby give myself permission to pat myself on the back and say 'well done. You did good kid, despite everything you still came through'."<BR/><BR/>I celebrate you, Bob-kat, and all that you have accomplished in the face of terrible stress!! Try to forget the past - butlearn from it.kenjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342414519714356343noreply@blogger.com